Stop whining and CHANGE IT!

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I hate whiners.

“I hate my life, I hate my husband, I hate my wife, I hate my situation, I hate my job, I hate my house, I hate my town, I can’t seem to make any money. I can’t seem to get ahead, I have the worst luck,  my life just SUCKS!

I have one thing to say to these people…

YAWN!  You are boring me. Go whine to someone else.  I’m busy and I have things to DO!

HARSH???  Well GOOD!  Cuz I’m DONE!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect and I can do my share of whining. However, I get to a point where I don’t want to listen to myself whine any longer, and I do something to change whatever it is that made me whine!

I used to be that person who would listen to these whiners. I listened to some of these whiners FOR YEARS!   At first, I’d be sympathetic. I was that good friend who listened to their tales of woe and felt sorry for their strife. But after a few years, the tale of woe was the SAME!  I found myself in a crazy loop!  I’d offer my advice, give them ideas on how they can change their circumstances or patterns over and over again and there would be no change. I came to find that these people just like to WHINE and be miserable!  They have every excuse in the book as to why they can’t change their circumstance!  I’ve HEARD THEM ALL!

Here is a newsflash if your life sucks…. it will ALWAYS SUCK until you actively DO something to change your circumstance!  Does your job suck?  CHANGE IT!  Is your business not making you money?  CHANGE YOUR TACTICS!  Are you in a bad relationship? GET OUT!  Seriously!  You only live a few short years on this planet. And, honestly, your friends and family are SICK of your whining!  We want the best for you and we want to see you succeed and most importantly BE HAPPY. But, we are unable to help you  unless YOU HELP YOURSELF. You must be willing to listen to advice, take that advice and DO something with it!

So here are some tips to help if you REALLY want to STOP being the whiner and START being the doer.

Disclaimer:  I’m not a licensed medical or legal professional. These are just my ideas that have worked for me. Results may vary and my ideas are NOT to be construed as any sort of legal and/or medical advice) I assume no liability if any of my ideas don’t work for you or cause you harm.   OK..  my lawyers are now happy

  1. Seek counseling.  If you are afraid of change, then get a professional to help you through these issues!
  2. Change your business tactics. If you are constantly seeing a financial loss in your business, then its time to figure out a NEW plan and CHANGE the way you do business!  Change your client base, change your prices, change your location, research your problem areas, get pro advice, or maybe change businesses all together!  Sometimes, you just have to close up shop and move on. It’s not the end of the world, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start another business that makes money and is a better fit for you.
  3. Change jobs or career.  Hate what you are doing? Learn to do something new. Yeah, you may have to take a pay cut at first, but learn to live with less. (see #6)
  4. Get OUT!  In a horrible marriage or relationship and you’ve tried everything?  GET OUT!  SEE A LAWYER if you have to! BE SAFE and seek shelter if your situation is dangerous!  Money shouldn’t be the issue.  Look at #6.  Live with less and simplify your life. You will be MUCH happier living in a tiny trailer, in your own space, doing your OWN thing than living in a big house with a partner that you despise!  (I know, I’ve done it!)
  5. Move to another town, state or country! If your business or job prospects are nill to none where you live, think about re-locating to a place with more  opportunities and/or a better client base.  Some towns are very depressed and opportunities are ZERO!  Research better locations!  (I’ve moved more times that most chasing better jobs)
  6. Downsize and live a little simpler. HAPPINESS is the key here.  You don’t “need” all that “stuff.”  Really you DON’T! Learn to live with a lot less!  Don’t live above your means and get into debt.  This is the downfall of many people.  They “think” they need that new car, the big house, the boat, all of the toys, the pampering, etc., when their paycheck (or lack of one) tells a different story. Until you can pay CASH for your toys and pampering, keep it simple. Getting yourself into huge debt and bogged down with a mountain of stuff will keep you STUCK in places you don’t want to be. Don’t get STUCK!

The bottom line is….. BE HAPPY.   Stop whining…. DO SOMETHING!  Get yourself out of your rut!

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No is my Favorite Word


NO!  Two little letters.  How can a word with just too little letters frighten the daylights out of us?  Why does this little word make us shake in our boots, cringe with fear, cry and pound our fists in the air?  WHY????

This has been such a stumbler for so many people trying to move up in their career paths or when they start a business!  Rejection just plain sucks!  Here’s how to get around it.

Learn to LOVE the word NO!

WHAT?  Call me crazy but this works for your brain and gets rid of the tremors!  Yep! That’s what I said!  When you get up in the morning and you need to make those calls, or hit the pavement, tell yourself that you will need to get at least 5 Nos today!   Make yourself fulfill a NO quota!    Pitch your idea, product or yourself as hard as you can.  If you get that dreaded “NO”, shake their hand and say THANK YOU!  You got your first NO!  Woo HOO!     Now you need to get four more!   You must think I’m NUTS!  Well, dear friend, we are re-training your wacky brain.  We are making your brain think that NO is a good thing.  So when you eventually get that YES…well I don’t have to tell you how awesome that is!!  Learn from the NO answers, Fix what needs fixing!  NO is a good thing!

So go out and get those NO answers!  It means you are TRYING!  It means you are out there doing your thing and NOT wasting time sitting at home worried about someone telling you NO!  You WANT the NO!   Get a TON of Nos!  Its a numbers game!  I guarantee you there is a Yes for every 5 NO. You’ll start getting YES answers so often that you don’t even let that that nasty little two letter word bother you any longer!




What Separates Millionaires from Everyone Else? MONEY OF COURSE! DUH!!!!!!!



They are FEARLESS!

When we were kids our parents endlessly engrained in our heads to never speak to strangers. Never. Most of us took heed to these orders. Then when we grow up, our careers and businesses depend upon us to speak to strangers on a daily basis. For some of us the mere thought of going up to a perfect stranger and striking up a conversation brings on a cold sweat.

To gain momentum in our business, we must learn to get over this fear and become fearless. Successful people have learned to become fearless when it comes to engagement. The big players in sales, especially direct sales, have learned to engage in conversation with just about anyone within a two foot radius. They look at it as a game. Will this person or won’t this person engage in conversation with me. They figure out how to size up a person in just the few words that are spoken. They figure out this person’s personality type in just a few moments of conversation.  They know what buttons to push when they size up the personality. All of this takes practice and training. Believe me, for even successful people, this skill didn’t happen over night!

When I tell people that they are going to have to get out and hustle their business and engage people face to face I might as well be telling them they have to strip their clothes off and dance in the town square! It’s very scary to put yourself out there and get singled out. The root of the problem is that we aren’t really scared of talking to the person; we are scared of the immanent rejection. The “why are you bothering me” response that we just know for a fact is going to come out of their mouth. I’m here to tell you that nine out of 10 times this isn’t the case. Trust me when I say that if done right, nine out of ten people will engage with you in a genuine way. If they don’t, then just say “have a nice day” and move on.

How to Talk to Strangers Fearlessly

Tip 1: Practice at the store. Don’t go into sales mode; just engage in conversation with as many people as you can. “I like your shoes.” “Isn’t this a great price?” “Where did you get your jacket, I love it.” See how long you can keep this person engaged and see where the conversation takes you. You will know instantly if that person is enjoying being engaged or not. Chat for a few minutes then say “it was nice talking with you” then leave. Yes leave. You are just taking baby steps in this endeavor. This exercise is to get you out of your shell.

Tip 2: Now that you are getting comfortable engaging in conversation with total strangers, the next time you go to the store challenge yourself that you will give away at least two business cards. This is very hard for most people. Talking to someone has become easy, so how do you make the jump to get your business information into their hands. Simple, hand it to them. Say, “It was very nice talking with you. Would you mind if I give you my business card? I have a product/service that I’m starting that helps a lot of people. Would you be so kind in helping me get the word out?” Nine out of 10 people will take your card and say sure! People love to help! Who wants to be THAT jerk that won’t help someone?  Not many. Trust me this works. However, don’t expect a call the next day. They will stick your card in their purse or wallet, forget about it for a while and then one day you’ll get a call from them or one of their friends out of the blue. If they do the unspeakable when you hand them your card and say, no I won’t help, just say “have a great day” and move on.  Then go find the nine people that will take your card and help!

Bottom line: It’s a numbers game. The more strangers you talk to the bigger your business will become. Do this over and over again and it will be second nature. Become fearless and grow your business.

That’s the difference between millionaires and everyone else.

I teach The Three “Fs” to Success.   This was a lesson on the First “F.”  Stay tuned for part two on this series!