Stop whining and CHANGE IT!

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I hate whiners.

“I hate my life, I hate my husband, I hate my wife, I hate my situation, I hate my job, I hate my house, I hate my town, I can’t seem to make any money. I can’t seem to get ahead, I have the worst luck,  my life just SUCKS!

I have one thing to say to these people…

YAWN!  You are boring me. Go whine to someone else.  I’m busy and I have things to DO!

HARSH???  Well GOOD!  Cuz I’m DONE!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not perfect and I can do my share of whining. However, I get to a point where I don’t want to listen to myself whine any longer, and I do something to change whatever it is that made me whine!

I used to be that person who would listen to these whiners. I listened to some of these whiners FOR YEARS!   At first, I’d be sympathetic. I was that good friend who listened to their tales of woe and felt sorry for their strife. But after a few years, the tale of woe was the SAME!  I found myself in a crazy loop!  I’d offer my advice, give them ideas on how they can change their circumstances or patterns over and over again and there would be no change. I came to find that these people just like to WHINE and be miserable!  They have every excuse in the book as to why they can’t change their circumstance!  I’ve HEARD THEM ALL!

Here is a newsflash if your life sucks…. it will ALWAYS SUCK until you actively DO something to change your circumstance!  Does your job suck?  CHANGE IT!  Is your business not making you money?  CHANGE YOUR TACTICS!  Are you in a bad relationship? GET OUT!  Seriously!  You only live a few short years on this planet. And, honestly, your friends and family are SICK of your whining!  We want the best for you and we want to see you succeed and most importantly BE HAPPY. But, we are unable to help you  unless YOU HELP YOURSELF. You must be willing to listen to advice, take that advice and DO something with it!

So here are some tips to help if you REALLY want to STOP being the whiner and START being the doer.

Disclaimer:  I’m not a licensed medical or legal professional. These are just my ideas that have worked for me. Results may vary and my ideas are NOT to be construed as any sort of legal and/or medical advice) I assume no liability if any of my ideas don’t work for you or cause you harm.   OK..  my lawyers are now happy

  1. Seek counseling.  If you are afraid of change, then get a professional to help you through these issues!
  2. Change your business tactics. If you are constantly seeing a financial loss in your business, then its time to figure out a NEW plan and CHANGE the way you do business!  Change your client base, change your prices, change your location, research your problem areas, get pro advice, or maybe change businesses all together!  Sometimes, you just have to close up shop and move on. It’s not the end of the world, but that doesn’t mean you can’t start another business that makes money and is a better fit for you.
  3. Change jobs or career.  Hate what you are doing? Learn to do something new. Yeah, you may have to take a pay cut at first, but learn to live with less. (see #6)
  4. Get OUT!  In a horrible marriage or relationship and you’ve tried everything?  GET OUT!  SEE A LAWYER if you have to! BE SAFE and seek shelter if your situation is dangerous!  Money shouldn’t be the issue.  Look at #6.  Live with less and simplify your life. You will be MUCH happier living in a tiny trailer, in your own space, doing your OWN thing than living in a big house with a partner that you despise!  (I know, I’ve done it!)
  5. Move to another town, state or country! If your business or job prospects are nill to none where you live, think about re-locating to a place with more  opportunities and/or a better client base.  Some towns are very depressed and opportunities are ZERO!  Research better locations!  (I’ve moved more times that most chasing better jobs)
  6. Downsize and live a little simpler. HAPPINESS is the key here.  You don’t “need” all that “stuff.”  Really you DON’T! Learn to live with a lot less!  Don’t live above your means and get into debt.  This is the downfall of many people.  They “think” they need that new car, the big house, the boat, all of the toys, the pampering, etc., when their paycheck (or lack of one) tells a different story. Until you can pay CASH for your toys and pampering, keep it simple. Getting yourself into huge debt and bogged down with a mountain of stuff will keep you STUCK in places you don’t want to be. Don’t get STUCK!

The bottom line is….. BE HAPPY.   Stop whining…. DO SOMETHING!  Get yourself out of your rut!

Still have a zillion excuses? Still have the need to whine?  Then click here




Home Alone

  1. having left one’s job and ceased to work.
    “a retired state worker”

WOW.  I don’t work anymore at a J.O.B.  I’m in week one of my new adventure of being “retired” from my day job working for the State of California.  Its WEIRD!  I’m only at Wednesday.  Here are the words that describe what I feel.  Guilty, Overwhelmed, and Happy.  WOW, lets add CRAZY to that list of words.  People asked me all the time what I was going to do when I retire. My first thought is “wow, you don’t know me at all, do you.”  Then I say.. “OMG.. EVERYTHING!”   Unlike most retirees I won’t be purchasing the big RV and hitting the road on an endless vacation, that phase of retirement is a long way off.


Yes, my husband still has to get up and go to work and will need to for about 8 years.  So, when he leaves for work, I feel like I  need to put in my 8-10 hours every day getting stuff done around the ranch, clean house, cook, re-model, clean out the garage, landscape the yard, fix fencing, and the list goes on. The guilt isn’t only about him working and me not working, its also about my guilt of wasting ONE second of this new gift of time I just received.  Its like getting a superpower and not using it!   Now that I’m home, I feel like I need to get every single one of these things done. I also feel that I need to utilize this new found “time” to work on my many projects such as my art, speaking, coaching and other things that bring in money.  I feel guilty writing this blog. I should be finishing laundry or cleaning out the garage or…….

This brings me to the next word….. Overwhelmed.  I still have the mindset that I need to get everything on my long long list done TODAY  because this new found time is going to END soon (or so I think).  This is where I’m driving myself crazy.  I got so good at time management when I had limited time.  Now that I have ENDLESS time, I feel completely overwhelmed. Yeah I know.. we all should have such “problems”.. Having all the time in the world is what we all dream about.  Its like hitting the lottery!  But I have to say, its quite an adjustment! I feel like I need to spend every single MINUTE of this new found gift of doing SOMETHING!  Then the guilt comes back when I’m relaxing because I feel like I’m wasting my superpower.  SO here’s the deal…..

1.  I need to get my head together.  2.  Make a plan     3.  Get myself a routine   4. start practicing the things I preach.


Yes, I’m Happy to be “working” from home and doing the things I’ve always wanted..even if they are chores.  I got my pantry cleaned out yesterday, laid some linoleum tiles and covered the shelves. This is a project that I’ve put off for 15 years!  Now I just keep opening the pantry door and admiring my work done with my new time!  I just need to readjust my brain. I just have to remember to brush my teeth everyday!  jan screen 7

No is my Favorite Word


NO!  Two little letters.  How can a word with just too little letters frighten the daylights out of us?  Why does this little word make us shake in our boots, cringe with fear, cry and pound our fists in the air?  WHY????

This has been such a stumbler for so many people trying to move up in their career paths or when they start a business!  Rejection just plain sucks!  Here’s how to get around it.

Learn to LOVE the word NO!

WHAT?  Call me crazy but this works for your brain and gets rid of the tremors!  Yep! That’s what I said!  When you get up in the morning and you need to make those calls, or hit the pavement, tell yourself that you will need to get at least 5 Nos today!   Make yourself fulfill a NO quota!    Pitch your idea, product or yourself as hard as you can.  If you get that dreaded “NO”, shake their hand and say THANK YOU!  You got your first NO!  Woo HOO!     Now you need to get four more!   You must think I’m NUTS!  Well, dear friend, we are re-training your wacky brain.  We are making your brain think that NO is a good thing.  So when you eventually get that YES…well I don’t have to tell you how awesome that is!!  Learn from the NO answers, Fix what needs fixing!  NO is a good thing!

So go out and get those NO answers!  It means you are TRYING!  It means you are out there doing your thing and NOT wasting time sitting at home worried about someone telling you NO!  You WANT the NO!   Get a TON of Nos!  Its a numbers game!  I guarantee you there is a Yes for every 5 NO. You’ll start getting YES answers so often that you don’t even let that that nasty little two letter word bother you any longer!




How to get Trademarked!


When I was about to launch, professional development academy I figured I’d better protect my ass–ets and get a trademark. Easy peasy, I thought.  Well not so easy I found out.  First things first.  I went to the United States Patent and Trademark office (uspto) website and started to read their lengthy instructions on getting a name trademarked. They have some nifty videos too.   Here is what I learned.

1. Your trademark has to be associated with some sort of Goods or Services.  You just can’t get your name or image trademarked and call it a day.  You are required to have a product that is in commerce or you are planning to put in commerce. It can be an item such as T-shirts or coffee cups with your trademark on the tag or in regards to a service, a store that sells t-shirts or coffee cups Ok. so far so good.  I have stuff I want to sell. No problemo!

2. Search the uspto data base to see if your trademark has already been taken.  Ok, here is the tricky part.  If your trademark even remotely sounds like a trademark that is already registered, your application can be denied by the USPTO team of lawyers that will analyze your application with a fine tooth comb! Check out this link for examples of confusion. Just the explanation alone will confuse you, trust me! If your application is denied after they do their conflict search, they keep your filing fees.  I’ll get to those later.  They are pricey!

3. Ok so you did your search and you have  a very unique trademark that no one in the universe had thought of. Now you have to identify the class of goods or services that you want to sell. There are a bunch. So you have to scour the Uspto manual so you can list your products or services accordingly on your application.  So here’s what I did. I searched some companies on Uspto that were similar to mine to see how they filed their goods and services to get an idea which class to use for my products.  For example the class code 003 is for cosmetics, lotions etc. the list is extremely long just in this one class.  The class code for apparel is 025.  If you print out the apparel listing its 26 pages long!  You must use these classes.

4.  Ok so now you have figured out that you want to sell Jewelry, apparel, cosmetics, and bags.  Well guess what?  These are in four different classes and you will have to pay FOUR filing fees at 375.00 a pop!!  If you also have a store called “My trademark” where you will sell your branded stuff, you will also pay for that class as well!  See how this application can get a little pricey?

5. Ready to file that application and you searched the USPTO website for any conflicting trademarks?  You may be ready!  Now you have to submit a specimen of your product or services you want to sell. Here’s where people screw it up!  A t-shirt with your trademark WILL NOT be sufficient!  I REPEAT!  NOT sufficient!  What you can submit is a T-shirt with a TAG that shows your trademark.  A t-shirt or coffee mug with your logo isn’t a specimen. If you have a hot-sauce with your logo on the label, you CAN submit that as a specimen as that is a good.  If you have a service, you can submit your marketing materials, however an invoice or a business card is not good enough.

6. Now you must submit a specimen of your trademark.  Here are the rules for submitting your image and the samples of your goods and services.

7.  Now here is the scary part:  USPTO can reject your application if their attorneys feel that there is any sort of conflict with your trademark and other reasons!  You did your homework and found no conflicts. However, you don’t have the trained eye that their lawyers do.  If they reject your application they will keep every dime of your application fee!  If you applied for several classes, that can be a pricey mistake!


I hired to do my trademark.  They will search the trademark database with their trained eye and look for conflicts.  They actually found 5 potential trademark conflicts with my application!  I did my own search and didn’t find a thing!  I thought I was all good!  So, thankfully, I paid a few extra dollars to Legal zoom (the total fee to use them was 189.00)  and I get to speak to a lawyer for a half an hour to figure out if my application would ultimately be rejected and what I have to tweek to get my trademark!  They  put my application on hold and haven’t sent anything to USPTO yet, thankfully, until I get my consultation on April 5th.

If you are thinking of having your nifty name trademarked, I highly advise you to learn the basics first before you hire an attorney, or use

Here’s my disclaimer.

I have barely touched the surface on getting a trademark in this blog post and this is NOT LEGAL ADVICE.  Its merely me sharing my adventure on getting a trademark and the stumbling blocks that I have encountered.  I may have to pull my application and re-group. It all depends on what the attorney tells me on the 5th!

NOTE: Anyone who claims rights in a mark may use the TM (trademark) or SM (service mark) designation with the mark to alert the public to the claim. It is not necessary to have a registration, or even a pending application, to use these designations. The claim may or may not be valid.

The registration symbol, ®, may only be used when the mark is registered in the PTO. It is improper to use the registration symbol at any point before the registration issues.

The Mindset of a Millionaire

Does the above graphic giving you a headache?  This fuzzy mess represents the average person’s LIFE!   We have jobs, kids, spouses, outside activities, school, you name it.  With all this going on, the one thing we want to do as business people gets lost in the shuffle.  Our rock star goal is that little red word in the middle of all of that mess.

The one excuse that everyone one has… and I’ve heard it over and over again is…


Drum Roll please……




This is the biggest fattest juiciest lie we tell ourselves!  OK.  Are you ready for the millionaire challenge?  Starting tomorrow I want you to journal every single thing you do from the moment you get up until you go to bed.  Do this for seven days straight.  Journal your commute, your lunch break at work and everything else that you do!  Now, here is where the shocking truth happens.  I guarantee that each and every one of you are doing absolutely NOTHING of real importance at least 10-12 hours in that seven day period. You are watching TV, (reality shows) napping, or playing Farmville.   The average person is awake 16 hours in a 24 hour period.  After you have collected your data, and I hope you were honest, take a good hard look at your wasted time and ask yourself what is important.  You can balance your time with your family, sit down at the table and have a real family meal, help the kids do their homework, AND take that wasted reality show time and get a few tasks done with your business.

I’m always asked how I get so many things accomplished. Sarcasm ALERT:   I had myself cloned by a mad scientist in Russia. As a matter of fact there are at least four of me running around getting stuff done. All the new me running around are skinny, young and HOT!  OF COURSE!

Ok.. there is just the middle aged ONE of me and I just manage my time extremely well and treat each hour (even minute) seriously! That’s what I do! I take a thoughtful and deliberative approach to my waking hours and I make sure I get a full 7-8 hours of sleep!

Here is a cold hard fact and your wake up call. 

It takes devotion, hard work and sacrifice to become successful.  God Awful PINK!  I KNOW!!!  


 This is the mindset of a millionaire.


“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser focus.” ~ Bruce Lee

Nurturing the Rock Star

If you already have a rock star employee in your company, congratulations!  You are one lucky manager.  So what are you doing to keep your rock star from being stolen by the competition or getting bored and looking for something more meaningful and challenging? Are you doing the following?

  • Promoting
  • Encouraging
  • Training
  • Complementing
  • Rewarding
  • Communicating
  • Smiling

If you aren’t doing all of the above, you better start planning that going away party now!